So you’ve found that one person that fits you perfectly and you’re going to live happily ever after, right? It’s that easy…or it is it? Marriage is hard. People change, and you either grow together or more often than not, grow apart.

Marriage Counseling

A troubled marriage is one in which partners devalue each other and fail to take every opportunity to value each other.

Generally, also, as love has lessened people lose confidence that the marriage can ever improve, and their demoralization and loss of hope prevent them from working on changing the relationshipLife can be chaotic, and if you and your partner are not working through new circumstances and growing together, a married couple can find themselves living separate lives. Communication becomes difficult, and discussions turn into fights that feel impossible to overcome. Marriage counseling can help you either work through these issues or help you prevent them.

Marriage Can Be Negatively Effected By:

  • communication issues
  • finances
  • sex
  • affairs
  • children
  • family/in-laws
  • step family issues
  • jealousy
  • religion/ethics/values
  • moving
  • lack of connection/emotional intimacy
  • depression
  • anxiety
  • substance abuse
  • anger
  • role conflict
  • infertility
  • countless other challenges

Marriage Solutions

If you are going to improve your relationship you must do the following:

  • Regain a willingness to work on improving your relationship and sustain that willingness long enough to that the Marriage can bounce back. The worse off your marriage is now, the longer you must be willing to work to change it before you give up.
  • Focus on the good things that you do. If you focus on the successes and try to ignore the failures for a period, you’ll regain a sense of faith in the relationship and confidence that it can improve.
  • Increase your efforts to value your partner in love at every opportunity, and increase your efforts to avoid devaluing your partner

What To Expect

  • Specific ideas on how to communicate more effectively
  • Expert guidance to stop the circular (and often escalating) arguments/fights
  • Specific guidelines, tailored to you, on how to bring passion back to your marriage.
  • Implementable steps to identify “cause and effect” and negative patterns
  • Effective techniques to heal past damage, grievances, and resentment
  • Direction and facilitation to get through the “difficult stage”
  • “Here and now” ways to successfully move forward
  • Future problem solving
  • Individual direction on working through addiction, depression, anxiety, co-dependency, etc.

How to Prepare

Try to come in with an open mind and heart. Often, a couple comes into therapy, but only one member wants to be there. This is normal. One member often feels the relationship is worse or has reached a point of no return. If you have made it as far as coming into the office, you will get the most out of your time by being open and honest about how you are feeling and what you are experiencing. We encourage you to share any doubts or concerns about the process and ask questions about how it will move forward and help your relationship. We know how difficult it can be to walk through the door, and we want to make it a comfortable experience where you feel safe to express yourself freely.  Your marriage is important to us, and we will work as hard as you do to restore and rebuild.

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